Breaking Bad / Letting Go / 2Grow
Ruts. Routine. Comfort zones. What ever you want to call it, it’s the process we put ourselves into so we don’t have to think. Our caveman brains like that so we can keep an eye out for imminent danger
My daughter couldn’t wait to get back to work after the long holiday week off because she wanted the routine, the structure. She’s a left brained gal. I, on the otherhand was dreading the holiday week being over because I didn’t want to go back to the routine / the same thing day after day.
But I was reminded of how many people come to enjoy the security of that / expecting the same things, doing the same things. Especially when you look at how many people start the new year with all their resolutions and are back to the same ole same ole in a matter of weeks.
There’s comfort in knowing what to expect. There’s comfort and a sense of value in being the problem solver, in completing a task as planned – no hiccups or challenges. But does that help you break away from the pack? Help you grow? I think not.
The same things happen to well intentioned toastmasters and newer speakers. They join speaking groups such as toastmasters and the bureau and the NSA to finally break out. But fall into the comfort zone of mastering a route speech. Getting comfortable with gaining some confidence and thinking they are an expert.
It’s time to get into the habit of breaking bad. (breaking those bad habits)
When I was volunteering at the Special Olympics CA, just after Johnny Knoxville left our VIP tent (cool guy), I got to talking to a gentleman who worked at NASA astronaut training. Fascinating conversation. He was training SO athletes and talked about how he loved it, and why. Then turned to his training of astronauts. He was explaining the process of having to dock a certain ‘vehicle’ in space, (to the space station!) and that it was so difficult to train older astronauts who had driven before (in gravity situations – such as here on earth. ). He said that the younger ones were so much easier to teach, not because they were young, but because they had no preconceived notions of how things should ‘work’. And had no thoughtless habits or notions. With the older ones he had to break the old thinking that always encroached upon the lessons as ‘the logical way’ to do things. He had to dismiss several astronauts because they just couldn’t let go of bad behaviors and stinking thinking.
As we get older we hold more onto what we know as ‘tested’ / ‘tried & true’ when in reality we don’t want to let go of that security & comfort.
For speakers who are ‘trained’ such as toastmasters…. They get comfortable in how they were taught when in reality that’s not what makes a great speaker. They have learnt technique, thinking that’s what will get them paid.
When in reality, it’s not technique (that only helps when you’ve mastered everything that comes before that) or mastering ‘safe topics’.
To succeed as an Emerging Speaker, you have to be real, authentic, have great content or subject matter expertise, personality, energy, and ability to create some type of audience shift.
The #1 reason Emerging Speakers never get started or get to paid is because they fail to connect with the #1 thing that will get them there. Themselves. Let go of old habits, look at things in a new way. Why do you do what you do? Is there another way? For your topics – why are they important to you and how can you switch them up to make some real impact? Goal is to reach down and pull out that real voice.
Comfort Zones. Safety Nets. Routines. Get uncomfortable and find what will make you interesting. Don’t be an old astronaut.
Age isn’t a definition. It’s the mind that creates the limiting box. (click to tweet)
Break the bad.